Good afternoon and welcome to the party! We have a special host for you today, please help me welcome Mr. Dale Carnegie! Together we are going to talk a bit today about winning friends but first, a small bit about this fine gentleman.
Mr. Carnegie was an American businessman, author, and philanthropist who is best known for his publication How to Win Friends and Influence People.
In this best-selling classic, he covers a plethora of strategies one can employ to gain the kinship, trust, and cooperation of others without manipulation.
This post covers 5 key topics which you can apply TODAY to make friends wherever you go. Please keep in mind that not all people will be receptive but with this technique your chance of success is so high you will want to keep trying and trying to hone your connection skills. Without further delay, the ideas are presented below:
- Think and speak in terms of others. Frame your mind, your questions, and your thought process to how the other person is thinking. Walk and talk in their shoes.
- Avoid flattery and instead choose to give sincere and specific appreciation. This skill has been a blessing for me and I learned more creative ways to show appreciation for others in 7 levels. Giving praise not flattery and specific recognition are key elements to build trust and connection. This works with friends and coworkers, family, and even strangers who are receptive to kindness and a positive spirit.
- People are naturally only interested in themselves. If you are always interested in others, you will have friends forever. No one cares about what you think honestly, they just care about what is best for them. Show them that you care about them as much as they care about themselves, and then you will have friends forever.
- Do not condemn or scold others. When you do so, the other person is likely to backlash or ignore you.
- Greet people with animation and enthusiasm which radiates interest in others! A positive and warm personality goes a long way, in fact much much longer than a negative and dull personality.
These are the nuggets for today, keep these ideas mind when you are interacting with others. If you can develop your skill of seeing things from others perceptive just as well as you see them from your own, you will be good to go!
I am grateful this was the second book I discovered in my original quest for knowledge and this work has served me every time. I now abide by the platinum rule which is to treat people how they want to be treated.
The goal is to create win wins and not to manipulate anyone in my own selfish interest. When we can pull that off, with a sweet and unique personality (rather than tart) we can win friends wherver we go!
Have an awesome day 😎